It is scary how children come up with different stories when anyone in the family is ill. They tend to ask a lot of questions regarding the health of their loved ones, and when they don’t get answers – they make one.
Upon receiving the invitation to participate in the 2015 Minnesota Psychotherapy Conference, we were quick to presume that the subject matters it would cover would be similar to other seminars we went to before. “They would talk about depression or anxiety first. Then, they might tackle the benefits of online counseling.” Although that was not far off from the reality, something we did not foresee was the inclusion of marriage counseling in the list of topics.
To commemorate the third year since we attended the conference mentioned above, therefore, let us share three tips on how to avoid marital problems.
Your husband had a family before you. He is what he is now because there was someone who nurtured him most of his life. He for sure loved a woman as much as he loves you now, and he owes his every breath to his parents. But how do you deal with the idea that there will always be some people who would matter, maybe even more than you do?
Some relationships tragically end because of lies which are unavoidable sometimes. There are instances that we do or say things that are hurtful to the people dear to us, and we think that we are protecting them by tailoring the reality.
“Though shall not lie.” But why do we still do it? It is sad for some marriages that have ended because of all the white lies that piled up and have become too painful. According to Neel Burton M.D., “Truth tends to lead to successful action.”
What are white lies?
White lies are the things we need to say that aren’t big of a deal to hide a disturbing truth. These are told to avoid conflicts or misunderstandings. Even if they are not too offensive, they could start the fire that will burn the whole house down.
“The truth shall set you free,” and it will! Communication and honesty are two essential elements of a successful relationship whether it is in marriage, friendship, or other connections.
How Can The Truth Therapy Strengthen A Relationship?
- It Provides Self-Awareness.
The truth therapy makes you know yourself better. It aims to uncover all the things that you are hesitant to reveal. You may have some things you want to keep to yourself or things that are unacceptable. In truth therapy, the goal is to bring out all there is that you may be hiding which are affecting your life.
- It Promotes Trust.
Once a person knows the power of telling the truth, he will start to believe in the positive things it does to his relationships, therefore is open to trying it out to build a better connection to all the people around him. He gets the idea that there is freedom from telling the truth and sincerity to relationships. “When it gets down to it, the truth is simple, not complicated,” says Matt James Ph.D.
- It Opens Opportunities.
When you are transparent and are willing to expose your strengths and weaknesses, the people around you will have an understanding of your behavior and how to treat and approach you.
- It Takes Away Fear.
You are fearful when you are hiding something. When you have revealed all there is, no one can say things that will affect you. You and the people who matter know the truth, and that makes you more courageous to face anything in life.
- It Starts A New Beginning.
Honesty clears your path of the hindrances that were blocking your journey to success. It starts with self-awareness, and it continues to realizations about life. It makes you reflect on your goals and makes your decisions less complicated.
The truth is a sign of commitment, may it be to yourself, to other people, or to life itself. It is a sign of sincerity that you have the real desire or intention. There are times when the truth is hidden to avoid the worse things from happening, but there’s a quote which says, “Better to get hurt by the truth than be comforted with a lie.”
Always choose to stick to the truth because it is one thing that we share with the people who are valuable to us. If you care about a person and your relationship, you will go your way to tell nothing but the whole truth because sometimes, things can hurt them worse when they hear it from somebody else. “Truth is something much deeper and farther reaching,” says Thomas Henricks Ph.D.
Growing up watching The Bill Cosby Show left me wondering, “What if I got a family just like that?” It would indeed be a happy home filled with love and sound of laughter. I love the Huxtable’s modern parenting style, raising smart kids with so much love, openness, and understanding. It’s going to be a family you would be excited to go home to after a busy and exhausting day.
When couples don’t get along well, the first thing that comes to their mind is to get a divorce. Then impulsively they will act on it, sometimes not considering the consequences or the effects it would have on their kids. According to Amy Morin, LCSW, “Divorce creates emotional turmoil for the entire family, but for kids, the situation can be quite scary, confusing, and frustrating.”
We all are social creatures. We always want to be around people, especially our own family, whether it’s a functional or a dysfunctional family. We feel stuck with them and feel responsible for them, and there is nothing wrong with that. “An individual is functional when they are able to effectively work toward realizing valued goal states, given the stressors and affordances they face,” according to Gregg Henriques Ph.D.
We all know that a perfect family doesn’t exist, but some parents try to build one for their kids’ sake, and that’s not bad. According to psychologist Elvira G. Aletta, Ph.D., “No family is perfect, even the functioning ones.” Almost everybody dreams to be in a nuclear family living in a house with beautiful surroundings, the father working and the mother just stay at home to take care of the kids. Read More
There is only a year gap between my sister and me. I adore and love her so much. As a child, seeing her as the brilliant and smart one, she became my role model. As years went by, I felt happier that everybody loved her, but why was there pinching pain I felt inside?
The meaning of a family is a mother, father, and children living together in a household. A happy, healthy, and loving family is the idea we all want when we are planning to build a family. It’s everybody’s dream, but not everybody is lucky enough to have one.