Growing up watching The Bill Cosby Show left me wondering, “What if I got a family just like that?” It would indeed be a happy home filled with love and sound of laughter. I love the Huxtable’s modern parenting style, raising smart kids with so much love, openness, and understanding. It’s going to be a family you would be excited to go home to after a busy and exhausting day.
How Do You Picture An Ideal Family?
“Family values are key factors in shaping ideas around success,” says Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW. An ideal family rooted in values is one whom you know will stick with you through thick and thin and stay with you and accept you despite your flaws. It is the ideal family that is hard to find, where
1. Parents don’t fight.
2. The family lives in harmony without conflict.
3. Every member of the family is always cooperative and helps one another.
4. Parents know every single detail about their children.
5. The father is the one working, and the mother is left at home to take care of the children and do the household chores.
Reality of a Modern Functional Family
Television has a significant influence on children and parents in portraying what a functional family should be
1. Married couples no matter how secured and happy they are, will have a misunderstanding. The issue is not that they fight but how they deal with it, resolve it, and then move on.
2. Change is inevitable and can mean accomplishment to one member and stress to another. But their adaptability, love, and acceptance for one another will bring harmony and balance to the everchanging situations.
3. Siblings have their personality, and it’s understandable that they have petty healthy misunderstandings. Parents should not meddle unless it becomes physical. If kids can settle things on their own, this only shows how responsible and mature they are. Allowing them to learn how to resolve matters on their own can serve as an excellent foundation and will strengthen their relationship with their siblings when they grow up as adults. According to Amy Morin, LCSW, “A few simple changes to your parenting strategies could give your child the tools he needs to manage his behavior more effectively.”
4. It’s not about controlling your children, but disciplining them and showing them you trust them. It’s about teaching them values, honesty, and a sense of responsibility including time management. This will allow them to be independent and responsible adults when it’s time for them to live on their own, especially when they go away for college.
5. In a modern functional family, the mother and father should work together to provide their children a better future. History reveals that mothers worked even before the 19th century, balancing their time with work, household chores, and raising children. Working moms should not be a threat to a family’s welfare, but something that should be considered positive. It assures the family that they are not only well provided financially, but children will grow secure and confident because of the image of an accomplished woman in their mother.
There are many family-oriented TV shows, some about a dysfunctional family, others conventional family, a modern family with an unconventional way of rearing up children. These TV shows keep up with time in representing each kind of family in our society, but they should not forget to focus on the traditional family values. Sometimes, television shows involve families with ethical values that make us believe in the power being together as one unit. It inspires us to have a family of our own in the future with the same intact morals.
In reality, it could be a family raised by a single parent, a blended family as the product of divorce, a family of gay or lesbian couples who decided to adopt children, or a regular nuclear family and extended family. Television plays a significant part in informing us that whoever makes up our family, what’s important is how each member plays their roles. It’s about how parents nurture, guide, and love their kids, and how these kids will carry with them the values inculcated in them when it’s time for them to have a family of their own. According to psychologist Hameeda Bassa-Suleman, “It is imperative for families to spend time together in order to facilitate bonding.”