Your husband had a family before you. He is what he is now because there was someone who nurtured him most of his life. He for sure loved a woman as much as he loves you now, and he owes his every breath to his parents. But how do you deal with the idea that there will always be some people who would matter, maybe even more than you do?
Why You Should Never Compete With Your In-Laws:
- Your husband owes his life to his parents, and if not because of them, the two of you wouldn’t have met at all. Yes, sometimes, they can be out of line, but understand that they could get carried away at times. You have after all technically snatched their once precious angel from them, and they may never be ready for it.
- Your in-laws may not have much time left to spend with their beloved son. We need to face the reality that we will all go, and as a partner, we should be sensitive and supportive to our husbands. Their parents are among the significant people in their lives, and contributing to their healthy relationship means a lot. The relationship of your husband with his parents play a vital role in his mental health. “In-law relationships are challenging,” said Elizabeth Dorrance Hall Ph.D.
- Your in-laws may be harsh at times, but they don’t mean any They may say things which may offend you, but you should ignore them. They only mean something when you think they do. You cannot let their every word affect your relationship with your husband because they would, after all, always have something to say. If you get affected by their every comment, then your marriage will not be in peace.
- You will always be the priority even if it doesn’t look like it. Sometimes, you get jealous of what your husband does for his parents, but you shouldn’t get upset. “When you are disappointed by your in-laws, try as hard as you can not to escalate the situation. Becoming “extra” and volatile or excessively emotional never does anyone or any situation any good,” advises clinical psychologist Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D. Instead, it would help if you were happy that he does those things because that means he is a worthy They say you should observe how a man treats his mother as it defines who he is, and it will most likely show how he would be towards you.
- Your husband needs to show gratitude that’s why you should never stop him from doing so. There will always be the feeling of wanting to give back to the people you owe your life to, and even you would want to do the same to your parents. Taking it away from him is starving him of an emotional need. You don’t want your husband to be feeling regretful and shameful someday. “Both you and your spouse will need to modify your behavior in realizing the relations you want with your in-laws. After all, the only things that you can definitely change about the situation are your own feelings, moods, and behaviors — how you react,” says Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright Ph.D.
Your husband is caring to your in-laws because he is a great man, and there is nothing you should be upset about. If there should be something you should feel, you should be proud because of the man he is. You must or should have children, and you don’t want them to be neglecting you once they marry.